She is selfish, because she did it for herself because it bothered HER, not your child. 11-12 sounds reasonable to me - for a straightforward hair cut. How would you feel about somebody cutting your child's hair without your permission? The hairdresser should use their discretion, but row with the child about it, not the hairdresser if they don't get what they wanted. If the child's father took the child to a hairdresser, the hairdresser gets paid to cut hair without requiring a waiver or permission slip from the other parent. ownership over their children, arguing that family life was a private matter. A mum is suing a school who shaved her daughter’s curly hair, allegedly telling the child her hair would ‘grow back straight’. How did your daughter feel about it? A mixed-race model cut off his afro as a child to avoid people touching it. The girl was legit charged with assault and battery with a deadly weapon. A girl in my sister’s class did this exact thing to her once, and she reported it to the police. But nowadays few would argue in favour of young children being sent up chimneys, or put to work in factories or the mines from five years old. It would be best to keep the peace with her mother and not cut her hair. No one cuts a child's hair without a parent's permission. She can not think that what she did would be fine in anyones eyes but her own. Last night OH and I went out for the first time this year, leaving our DD with my mum. Hair is really a small issue when you consider everything. My mum is always saying "she needs her hair cutting, it looks silly, let's just trim it and it might look nice", OH always replies with "I don't want to cut it yet, I like it natural looking and long." “Funny” but True story: Cutting off a chunk of someone’s hair without their consent is actually, legally considered assault and battery with a deadly weapon. I do understand how you feel but you're not going to be able to control everything related to … I did not let my daughter decide to cut her hair until she was 7. Haircuts are not an OK punishment. If you can't trust the child, go with them. Where a significant portion of a woman's hair is cut off without her consent, this is a serious matter - not trivial or insignificant - amounting to bodily harm." It's not something that has happened to me but a Dad's Reddit post recently went viral when he asked the internet for advice after collecting his 15-month-old daughter from nursery, only to discover that her hair had been cut at some point between dropping her off in the morning and collecting her later that day. I believe that you may be able to file a motion to modify your previous judgment to try to change the parenting plan that is currently in place to include language regarding your child’s appearance. O my goodness. It was completely unacceptable. You put up hair, but once you cut it there's no putting it back. Generally, I would not think that there would be any statute prohibiting a parent with joint legal custody from cutting their child’s hair. While I agree that parents have legal authority to have a child’s hair cut, I think some haircuts would qualify as emotionally abusive parenting and could result in a CPS intervention if the child were to make a complaint. Even if parents cut their kids hair it's still illegal without their permission or consent or will. Yep. No-one would question the need for laws that protect children … Spankings groundings or talking tk them is an ok punishment. I think what she did borders on assault. She had begged for a couple of years to get it cut.